When are you getting married? Have you picked a venue? What are your colors? What style of dress do you want? And my personal favorite - Am I invited?
Ugh. It's enough to make any bride feel like this:
Unfortunately, and much to the apparent dismay of those questioning them, most couples don't have all the answers to those questions immediately after they get engaged. And in my case it was many, many months before we were able to firmly decide on anything. Our lack of a wedding date made it virtually impossible to make plans, and I hated having to explain our situation over and over again. I can't blame our friends and family for wanting to be kept in the loop about our big day, but part of me wished B and I could have a small civil ceremony just to avoid all the drama!
Meanwhile, my roommate and lovely bridesmaid EC got engaged about 3 weeks after B and I returned from Paris. She shared in my frustrations at first, bemoaning the fact that people can be extremely tactless when it comes to weddings, and agreeing that it was annoying having to deal with all the questions. But about a month into her engagement, EC had managed to set a date and book the reception venue. She was off and running with her wedding plans, while I was still stuck in neutral. I was obviously over the moon about her engagement (her fiance and I went to high school together, and they're two of my best friends) but it was incredibly frustrating to feel so behind!
Of course it's all good now - we've got a date and have started making the big decisions, but I have to admit, I was a bit of a sullen bride-to-be for awhile - and it didn't help that I was left to field all the questions by myself, with B off in Michiganland!
Did you have to deal with a lot of questions after you got engaged? How did you handle it?
Now that I've had the pleasure of being on the receiving end of that question, I will NEVER ask another newly engaged couple. It was slow going with our planning too - mostly because of the massive amounts of snow and general lack of a budget for a few months.
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